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Using Positive Statements for Better Parenting

Written by Makinya Ward | May 25, 2016 3:00:00 AM

Many adults use positive affirmations in their thought life for positive mental well-being. At Kids Konnect, teachers seek to help children create a healthy inner dialogue by using positive statements. Parents can do the same thing. Positive parenting helps children by verbalizing true positive statements that help children be encouraged, confident, and willing to persevere even in difficult situations. Here is how to do positive parenting statements:

Give Your Child a Positive Identity

One of the most important things parents can do is to tell your children true, positive statements that they can repeat to themselves. For example:

  • I love you so much, and I will love you no matter what.
  • Your smile makes me happy.
  • You are an interesting person who is going to do great things.

Balance Negatives with Positive Statements

Of course, part of a parent's job is to point out things a child needs to change, but when you frame those negative statements with positives, you can help motivate your child to change their behavior. Say:

  • You made a mess with your toys but I know you can pick them up before Grandma comes for dinner.
  • I'm not happy that you hurt your sister's feelings but I know you are really a kind person and I'm sure you can think of something that will make her feel better.

Encourage Positive Character Traits

One of the most important jobs of a parent is to recognize the unique qualities and abilities their child so that they can encourage their child to develop those traits. Encourage behaviors like hard work, improvement, helping others and perseverance by saying:

  • I appreciate how you were so quiet and compassionate to me when I had a headache yesterday.
  • You ask so many good questions! I always like learning with you.
  • When you helped your dad in the garden, you really persevered even in the hot weather!

One secret of positive parenting is that when you say positive statements out loud, it calms you down, especially in moments of frustration or anger. So when you choose to make positive statements to be a better parent, you not only change the attitude and mindset of your child, you also change your own thoughts in a more positive direction. What is your favorite positive statement to say to your child?